Timari wanted to share her history with abortion because it hadn’t been addressed much on the show yet. Along the way, we also talk about being raised in the Mormon church, being in an abusive marriage and cheating, and her sex life with her current husband.
Tenisha is a 29-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as black, heterosexual, monogamous, average body type, currently in a relationship, and Christian. A few months ago, Tenisha interviewed me for…
Jazz is a gender non-conforming person who uses the pronouns “they” and “theirs”. The major theme of this episode is gender. Jazz talks about how genitals are not the be-all-end-all of gender. If all of the recent talk about gender as a spectrum has you confused or uncomfortable, this is the episode to listen to!
I believe that you are whole and complete exactly as you are. I believe that you are the perfect sexual partner for someone (or maybe multiple someones!) EXACTLY as you are. I believe that your body is going to drive someone (or maybe multiple someones!) to distraction because they love it so much, EXACTLY as it is today.
I also know that if you’re reading this, you probably don’t believe that yet. And that’s okay.
It wasn’t that long ago that I didn’t believe it either.
Two years ago, I was worried about everything…
…what if I had too many rolls of extra flesh for anyone to ever want to have sex with me?
…what if I was unacceptable because I didn’t like to swallow – surely that was a deal-breaker for men?
…what if my inexperience meant I was doing everything wrong and I was a terrible lover?
Please talk to Leah! You will (finally!) get to talk about and explore your sexual desires, your proclivities, your blind spots and your most intimate sexual needs with someone who is fully present, non-judgmental and deeply wise.
Leah pushed me and asked me questions to really narrow in on my desires and boundaries, all in a way that I knew was FOR me. Talking so openly and safely about desires and specifics made it possible for me to approach conversations with my partner.
Working with Leah has been nothing short of liberating. In just a few sessions I have already learned to ask for what I want and ask for what I deserve, and have put new concepts and skills into practice immediately. She has pushed me out of my comfort zone, but never too far. I always feel safe, respected, and trusting in my conversations with her.
With Leah, I learned how transformative it is to talk about sex! Not just that it’s okay, but it’s necessary for a healthy sexual relationship. Even though I’ve experienced other coaching and feel close with my female friends, I realize how much I’ve sidestepped direct conversations about sexuality. Leah helped me explore this arena with great insight and compassion.