Lisa grew up as an elite-level gymnast, so she had a heightened awareness of her body in the world from an early age. Her first marriage was with a good man who she had no sexual chemistry with, and she ended up having many affairs. Today she is in a monogamous long-distance relationship where they are exploring new fantasies and finding lots of ways to keep the sex alive between visits!
Through her teens and early 20s, Sarah dated MUCH older men. She talks about the pressures she felt and how the power differentials in those relationships worked. Today she is married and we talk about the physical difficulties she has with sex and how she and her husband work around them.
Michelle was attracted to males early in life, but those feelings cooled and she came out as a lesbian. Her wife of 17 years is the love of her life, but their physical relationship has always been difficult. Recently Michelle met a man who brought her sexual feelings roaring back to life, causing her to question her sexuality.
I believe that you are whole and complete exactly as you are. I believe that you are the perfect sexual partner for someone (or maybe multiple someones!) EXACTLY as you are. I believe that your body is going to drive someone (or maybe multiple someones!) to distraction because they love it so much, EXACTLY as it is today.
I also know that if you’re reading this, you probably don’t believe that yet. And that’s okay.
It wasn’t that long ago that I didn’t believe it either.
Two years ago, I was worried about everything…
…what if I had too many rolls of extra flesh for anyone to ever want to have sex with me?
…what if I was unacceptable because I didn’t like to swallow – surely that was a deal-breaker for men?
…what if my inexperience meant I was doing everything wrong and I was a terrible lover?
Please talk to Leah! You will (finally!) get to talk about and explore your sexual desires, your proclivities, your blind spots and your most intimate sexual needs with someone who is fully present, non-judgmental and deeply wise.
Leah pushed me and asked me questions to really narrow in on my desires and boundaries, all in a way that I knew was FOR me. Talking so openly and safely about desires and specifics made it possible for me to approach conversations with my partner.
Working with Leah has been nothing short of liberating. In just a few sessions I have already learned to ask for what I want and ask for what I deserve, and have put new concepts and skills into practice immediately. She has pushed me out of my comfort zone, but never too far. I always feel safe, respected, and trusting in my conversations with her.
With Leah, I learned how transformative it is to talk about sex! Not just that it’s okay, but it’s necessary for a healthy sexual relationship. Even though I’ve experienced other coaching and feel close with my female friends, I realize how much I’ve sidestepped direct conversations about sexuality. Leah helped me explore this arena with great insight and compassion.