Talking about what you want in bed can result in you having sex you actually enjoy!
Devi thinks about sex ALL the time … but can she have a healthy sexual relationship if she doesn’t learn to talk about what she wants?
As a high school student, it would be kind of shocking if Devi did know how to navigate talking about her desires. Even today, sex education is basically pregnancy and disease prevention. It isn’t designed to help anyone gain the skills they need to have successful romantic and sexual relationships.
But what if we had gotten the communication tools we needed back then? What if we had learned how to advocate for ourselves around needs, desires, safety, and consent?
How different might our sex lives have looked if we’d learned as much about pleasure as we did about the War of 1812?
MYTH: Talking about sex makes it less spontaneous. If they were a good partner for me, they’d know what I want without me having to tell them.
TRUTH: Talking about our desires and turn-ons can be reaaaaaaaallyyyyyyy hotttttttttttt!!!!!!!