My favorite lube for extremely sensitive skin
I’ve had several conversations recently with women who are having a hard time finding lube that works for them. It’s a dilemma I’m intimately familiar with – I’ve had to experiment with a LOT of different lubes because my skin is ultra sensitive and my body chemistry doesn’t play well with a lot of lube products.
Commercial lubes (KY, Astroglide, etc.) tend to have ingredients that many sex educators will tell you are terrible. On the other hand, you can pick them up at your local store. So being an inherently practical person, I’ll say that if you try them and they work well for you and don’t cause a negative reaction, go for it!
But, if you’re like me and can’t use the commercial stuff, there are still a ton of “natural” and “organic” options. And before this post, I would have told you that they are more expensive than the commercial stuff – but for this post I did a chart and discovered that most of them are right in line when comparing per-ounce cost. (The costs listed below are based on Amazon prices at the time of writing.)
But first, a public service announcement – there are many vagina owners who have been brainwashed into thinking that lack of lubrication means they are somehow failing. That if they don’t get “wet” it means there’s something wrong with their body, or there’s something wrong with their relationship because they’re not getting turned on enough, or any of a thousand other things.
Please hear this: THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!!! Each of us lubricates differently. Some of us produce tons of natural lubrication, some of us produce less. For some of us, lubrication is hugely affected by monthly hormonal cycles, others are significantly affected by aging (and some lucky devils aren’t affected by these things at all!)
There is NO SHAME – and quite a lot of pleasure! – to be had from using external lubrication.
IMPORTANT NOTE: If you are using lube with your sex toys, you need to be aware of ingredients. Water-based lube is safe with all sex toy materials. Silicone-based lube should NOT be used with silicone toys.
I am not an affiliate for any of these products – I’m providing my personal opinions because people frequently ask me for recommendations.
Isabel Fay – Water-based lube – I found this product a couple years ago and have sworn by it ever since. It feels gentle going on, doesn’t irritate my skin in any way, and maintains its slipperiness for longer than any of the others. I can even sleep with it on my skin without an adverse reaction, and it doesn’t stain. I’ve only seen it online, so I make sure to re-order when my current bottle starts to get low. I highly recommend this product!!
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($2.12 per ounce)
Swiss Navy – I was pleasantly surprised by the water-based version of this lube (I haven’t tried the silicone-based version.) It felt okay on my skin and provided a good level of slipperiness. The only complaint I have about it is if I fall asleep without washing, I wake up feeling like I’m covered in a thick film of gunk – not my favorite morning feeling. But compared to the others I’ve mentioned so far, which I wouldn’t choose to use again, this is an excellent backup when we run out of my favorite because we can get it at one of our local sex shops.
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($3.19 per ounce)
Coconut oil – Oil – This is a big favorite of many people because you can get a large tub of organic coconut oil at the local health food store for a decent price. Other benefits include that it smells nice and makes your skin soft. 😍 However, if you’re using condoms you should NOT use coconut oil as a vaginal lubricant – it degrades latex, so it can cause condoms to break. With that said – it’s an AWESOME oil to use for sexy massages or any other kind of play that doesn’t include condoms.
($0.43 per ounce)
Good Clean Love – Water-based lube – I had high hopes for this product because it felt okay on my skin. Unfortunately it didn’t maintain the slipperiness I needed. I’ve heard good things about it in this regard from others, so my guess is that it has something to do with my body chemistry, not a fault of the product.
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($2.75 per ounce)
Uberlube – Silicone-based lube – The gimmick of having a clear bottle so you can “see” the purity of the product is clever. I didn’t like the feel of this one on my skin, but I have a lot of friends who swear by it. I’ve also heard some interesting non-sexual uses for this product – and I saw an epic slip n’ slide this summer that incorporated Uberlube! 😮😮😮
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($10.58 per ounce)
Sliquid – Varieties are both silicone- and water-based – This is probably the best-known name among natural lubes and it’s pretty ubiquitous at sex parties. I’ve tried a few of the different varieties and generally wasn’t fond of how they felt after being on my skin for 10 or 15 minutes. None of them caused a specific adverse reaction, but I didn’t want to use any of them a second time. If you have a local sex store, they’re likely to have sample packets that you can buy cheap to see how it works for you, or you can purchase a sample pack directly from them.
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($1.41 per ounce)