What does it mean when the person you’re sexually attracted to isn’t the same as the person you want to spend your life with?
Any time someone asked “What do you like?” I felt stupid and inadequate. It was embarrassing. Once again, I was convinced of my brokenness.
I tolerated sex I didn’t want so I could get the cuddling I desperately craved. I believed that if I wanted something, I needed to tolerate anything the other person wanted in order to get a small portion of what I wanted.
When sharing our stories until we bleed doesn’t move the needle, what do we do? This weekend I discovered that radical resistance starts at home.
Is it okay to ask our partners to help us in healing our issues around sex?
I remember the laughter. I remember wondering if I was going to die. And because I didn’t, there was “nothing” to report.
How did I get to be 43 years old and not understand what consent means?
Welcome to my bright and shiny new home! In fact, it’s so new that I haven’t painted the walls or gotten any furniture yet. It’s sort of like our…