I don’t know when I was sexually gratified – Inez

Inez is a 32-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heterosexual, married with children, and monogamous.

Inez is dealing with chronic illness and is in a currently sexless marriage.

Topics covered in this interview include: recovering personal pleasure after abuse/trauma, body image, chronic illness and its impact on sexual activity, and how a partner’s mental health diagnosis impacts the relationship.

Here are some of the great moments she shared with us:

  • 5:40 – How it felt as an adult to tell her father about childhood sexual abuse
  • 8:50 – The culture difference around sex between the Midwest of the United States vs. the west coast
  • 12:33 – Discovering she was pregnant while on drugs
  • 18:00 – How weight fluctuations affect her experience of sexuality
  • 29:50 – How a partner having short stamina can be desirable for a survivor of sexual abuse
  • 31:30 – How her partner violated consent and led to her feeling unsafe and cutting off sexual contact
  • 39:05 – The Quick 5

The Patreon extras for this episode are:

  • At the $5/month level, Inez talks about the difficult relationship she had with her mother and stepfather and the effect that has on how she parents her own children.
  • At the $7/month level, that conversation plus 20-plus Q&A questions in 10 minutes.
  • At the $10/month level, all that plus a monthly Ask Me Anything!

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Host – Leah Carey (Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, email)

Editor – Gretchen Kilby

Music by – Nazar Rybak