My Favorite Things
Over the last few years I've tried A LOT of toys, lubes, and other sex-related things. Here are a selection of my favorites.
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A bizarre name for a great toy! Internal vibrator plus an external clit sucker. You may need to experiment to find the position that hits your clit for the sucker – you’ll know it when you find it!
Glass dildos (like this “Heart of Glass”) don’t do anything fancy, but glass feels oh-so-nice! For extra fun, put it in the refrigerator for a little while before play. Ooh-la-la!
Beaded anal plug
This is a great toy for beginners to anal play because it is graduated and you can go just as far as you are comfortable in any given play session
Wired Bullet Vibe
I like this simple little toy to stimulate my clit during intercourse – the wire makes it easy to keep track of when everything starts moving around!
Tweezer-style nipple clamps
If you’re curious about nipple clamps, I suggest starting with this tweezer style. I find them easier to get on and adjust. I avoided nipple clamps for a long time because I don’t like pain, but it turns out I love the sensation of these.
Screaming O Panty Vibe
If you’re ready for a little public play, this fits the bill. You put the vibe in your panties and your partner wears the remote control “ring” as you sit in a bar, take a walk in the park, or anywhere else you want to play around the edges of “getting caught.”
These make a handjob on your favorite penis extra special. There are lots of different “varieties”, each with a different internal massage pattern.
Lubes and other important stuff
Isabel Fay water-based lubricant
I have very sensitive skin, and I’ve tried a lot of different lubricants to find one that doesn’t irritate me or feel goopy. This is by far my favorite!
Trustex non-lubricated condoms
These are the condoms I swear by for blow jobs – no smell, no taste, no ejaculate in my mouth! And paired with the Isabel Fay lube above, they’re great for intercourse too!
These are super easy and lots of fun – you string them under your mattress and the velcro cuffs are ready for use any time. Simple and invisible as long as you tuck the cuffs under your sheets or mattress!
Products & toys for transgender men
Mason has put together a hand-picked list of binders, packers, harnesses, toys, and more for trans men who listen to Good Girls Talk About Sex!
Sex and relationship podcasts
Bawdy Storytelling – dubbed ‘The Moth for pervs’ by the LA Weekly – is the nation’s original sex and storytelling series. Founded, emcee’ed and curated by sexual folklorist Dixie De La Tour, Bawdy Storytelling features real people and rockstars sharing their bona fide sexual exploits.
How To Be A Girl
Where Should We Begin?
American Sex Podcast
TV & Movies
Shows and movies appear and disappear from streaming services periodically. These watch links are current as of March 2021.
One of my favorite shows – the stories around family and love relationships gripping. But even more than that, THERE ARE DIVERSE BODY SHAPES represented as romantic leads and objects of sexual interest.
This is on my list of 10 top favorite shows EVER!!!
What happens when a long-married couple is bored in their sex life and decides to open their relationship? I like this show because it demonstrates the importance of open communication and doesn’t fall into easy tropes.
Big Mouth (Netflix)
If you’ve ever been a teenager (umm – hi, everyone!) this show is a delightful love letter to your younger self. If you’re raising a teenager, this show is a quick CliffsNotes of what’s going on inside their brains and their bodies.
12 out of 10 – definitely recommend!
Sci-fi isn’t usually my favorite genre, but this show BLEW.MY.MIND in every episode! My three favorite things:
- the reminder of how we are all connected
- a depiction of a trans woman as a fully-realized character in a committed romantic and sexual relationship.
- GORGEOUS sex scenes, including an orgy scene that is so beautiful I could cry
Dating Around (Netflix)
I enjoy this dating show because I think it puts the appropriate amount of importance on first dates. On other reality dating shows, the goal is to get married or find “the perfect match.”
On this show, the suitor goes on five first dates and then chooses someone for a second date. Let’s hear it for realistic and manageable expectations!
Masters of Sex (Amazon)
A fictionalized deep-dive into the work of Masters & Johnson.
Normal People (Hulu)
If you haven’t seen this show, RUN don’t walk to your television and begin streaming it RIGHT NOW.
A gorgeous story of two people finding their way in the world and with each other through adolescence and young adulthood. All the ups and downs of hormones and social pressure framed around incredibly realistic sex scenes.
There is a bit of kink shaming in the second half of the season that makes me uncomfortable, but otherwise this is a slam dunk.
The Bold Type (Hulu)
A fun and frothy show about three young women working at a women’s magazine.
What makes it noteworthy is the frank conversations of taboo topics and the progressive mindset of the characters.
Mrs. Fletcher (HBO)
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways:
- Kathryn Hahn 😍😍
- Exploration of a middle-age woman’s sexual awakening
- A transgender character who is a regular character not a statement character
- Super realistic
12 Dates of Christmas (HBO)
Looking for something even frothier than Dating Around or The Bold Type? This is it!
Three people meet a variety of suitors to find someone they can “bring home for Christmas.” The intrigue is that all of their suitors also meet each other, opening the possibility for sub-romances!
Hope Springs (Amazon)
Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones as a long-married couple who visit a sex therapist.
I was prepared to think this was a train wreck of cultural messaging and shaming – but it was actually quite delightful.
The Book Club (Amazon)
Four women in their “golden years” read 50 Shades of Grey.
Thanks to Diane Keaton, Jane Fonda, Candice Bergen, and Mary Steenburgen for helping normalize sexuality for older women!!!