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The miracle of masculine and feminine

Have you ever had a time when you learned something new and all of a sudden it was all around you?  For instance, maybe you’ve never heard of karaoke and someone explains it to you, and then all of a sudden you hear about ten places in your town that have karaoke nights.

That’s how the last couple of months have been for me around the issue of masculinity and femininity.  It came up as something that required my attention just before the new year and – wow – it just isn’t going away!

Before I go any further, let me be clear that I’m not talking about male/female or man/woman.  Those are about our physical bodies.  Rather, I’m referring to the patterns, habits, and behaviors that are indicative of masculine and feminine energy. Everyone has a mixture of both (we all come from the combination of a mother and a father, after all); the question is whether we manifest them in a balance that is appropriate to our own goals and personalities.

At its root, masculine energy is about going out to hunt and provide for the family – it’s basically assertive.  Feminine energy is about receiving the food that the men have gathered and using it to nurture the family – it’s basically receptive (not to be confused with passive – you can’t skin a buffalo and use every bit of its parts by being passive!)


Isn't this a remarkable visual of how we manifest the traits we receive from both the masculine and the feminine?

A friend of mine put it to me this way recently – masculine energy has a vision and goes out to make it happen; feminine energy holds a vision and trusts that it will manifest around her.  Ideally, I would find a balance between the two.  However, I think I’ve been leaning too far to the masculine side for most of my life.  In some ways that works – we live in a world where the predominant energy in the marketplace is very masculine, so being able to play in that playground can be necessary to build a thriving business.  But when I come home, it’s time to let that go and focus on allowing my feminine side to come out and play.

I’ve been focusing on exercising my feminine side, but it doesn’t yet come naturally. Whether it’s accepting help carrying something heavy, or allowing a man to pick up the check on a date, my knee-jerk reaction is still to take care of myself and refuse help.

Sandee Mac - A remarkable teacher

This lesson has been coming up over and over and over in many different ways over the past few months. If I had ever wanted to ignore it, I certainly can’t now because it keeps knocking on my door, requiring my attention.

Tonight I took a class where it knocked yet again. Quite loudly. And insistently. Thankfully tonight the knocking also came with some specific instructions and exercises so I’m not wandering in the desert of my own mind, wondering what to do next.

It’s kind of comforting to know that when the Universe wants to get my attention, it doesn’t stop just because I miss the first three or ten or fifty messages.

It reminds me of one of my favorite passages in the book “The Shack“:

“…let’s say that I know it will take you forty-seven situations and events before you will actually hear me — that is, before you will hear clearly enough to [believe me]. So when you don’t hear me the first time, I’m not frustrated or disappointed, I’m thrilled. Only forty-six more times to go. And that first time will be a building block to construct a bridge of healing that one day you will walk across.”

Thank you to Sandee Mac and the Center for Collaborative Energies for tonight’s class. It is always a miracle to be in Sandee’s presence and to have the opportunity to learn from her.

About the author

Leah Carey

Leah Carey is the Chief Miracle Officer of The Miracle Journal, where she writes about the large and small miracles that happen in her life every day. She is a life coach, speaker, journalist, freelance writer, and lover of life. In all of those pursuits, she works with people to identify what’s already right in your life so you can build an even more joyful and fulfilling daily experience from that foundation. You can find her on Facebook, , Twitter, and YouTube.

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  1. susan

    OMG! I just read this one today, 4/8. Did you see the video link I sent u via email last nite 4/7.

    1. Leah Carey

      I did Susan! It’s amazing. For anyone who’d like to view the video Susan is talking about go to: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K_uRIMUBnvw

      The text that goes with the video reads:
      “Based on the “Manifesto for Conscious Men,” a collectively written document penned by a number of men who feel that a redefinition of the idea of masculinity is needed in the world today to redress the imbalances of patriarchy. A group of these men speak from the heart and offer a collective apology on behalf of their gender to all who identify with the feminine gender and feel an apology is either necessary or helpful for moving forward into a new era of cooperation and equality.”

  2. Michael Thompson

    I read The Shack last year, what a mavelous book!

    When I read your stage door post I followed the link from there to this post and as I read it I realized that Dar Williams’ song “When I was a boy” really fit with this post. Here is a link to a really nice youtube setting of the song – http://youtu.be/IcOlkA3ghf4.



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