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Giving AND Receiving

Last night I talked with a friend about what a challenge it is for each of us to receive help around finances.  We each carry the thought that we created our situation, so it must be our responsibility to solve it.  We each expressed the thought that accepting financial help from someone would only increase our feelings of failure.

Today I was listening to a CD called “Speaking Peace” by Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Non-Violent Communication. He shared a song by Ruth Bebermeyer called “Given To” and there was one particular thought that completely captured my attention:

When you give to me
I give you my receiving;
And when you take from me
I feel so given to.

What a remarkably different way to view the whole idea of giving and receiving help!  What if, in allowing someone who loves me to help me, I am actually giving them a gift?  I know that there’s truth in that from the other side – I feel joy in being able to give to others.  So why should I assume that they would feel anything other than joy in giving to me?

It’s a lesson that I’ll need to spend more time with.  I know that it’s one that’s going to prove valuable in the months and years to come.

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Leah Carey

Leah Carey is the Chief Miracle Officer of The Miracle Journal, where she writes about the large and small miracles that happen in her life every day. She is a life coach, speaker, journalist, freelance writer, and lover of life. In all of those pursuits, she works with people to identify what’s already right in your life so you can build an even more joyful and fulfilling daily experience from that foundation. You can find her on Facebook, , Twitter, and YouTube.

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  1. William

    I like your insight Leah! Great picture too. It gives me a feeling for the gift of receiving. May it prove most useful in the months and years to come. Just this morning I heard from a beloved friend to expect something in the mail later this week and I’m sitting here feeling, among other things, excitement for the opportunity to give a gift by joyfully receiving. Thanks for sharing your insight of receiving as a gift.

  2. Maria

    I love the idea of giving by receiving. I used to have the most horrible time receiving graciously and I’m still needing improvement with the practice of receiving. I know how good I feel when I give from the heart and this does make it easier to receive. I don’t want to be an abundance blocker adding to the stagnation of energy flow. Do you know about freecycle? It works on the giving and receiving principle. It’s at http://www.freecycle.org
    I’ve just started giving and receiving thru the St.J freecycle. I love it.

  3. Leah Carey

    Thank you William. I love that you wanted to give a gift by being a good receiver for your friend! 🙂

  4. Leah Carey

    Maria, I think we’re all learning and will continue to learn for many, many years to come. I’ve been a member of the local Freecycle for a while and I love the idea! I hope you’re enjoying your experience with them.

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